• Kimberly Ibarra

How to Stay Strong in Difficult Times


Whether you're dealing with a serious health problem, or you're faced with a financial crisis, tough times are inevitable. And it's during those tough times that your mental strength will be tested.


Without adequate mental strength, life's inevitable challenges will likely fill you with self-doubt and anxiety. Those uncomfortable feelings can lend way to negative thinking. And negative thinking will affect your behavior--which can inadvertently turn your catastrophic predictions into a self-fulfilling prophecy.


Staying strong in the midst of hardship requires you to manage your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Paying attention to all three areas will help you emerge from your struggles even stronger than before. To remember how to stay strong during life's toughest challenges, follow the ABC formula.


Accept reality.


Acceptance doesn't mean agreement. Instead, it's about acknowledging what is happening from a realistic standpoint. So while you may not agree with things like racism, you can accept that it happens.


Digging in your heels and saying, "I shouldn't have to deal with this," only wastes your valuable time and energy. Accepting what is happening right now--regardless of whether you think it's right--is the first step in deciding how to respond.


For example, one person stuck in a traffic jam says, "This isn't fair! Why do these things always have to happen to me?" His thoughts cause him to feel angry, frustrated, and anxious. He starts banging his fists on the dashboard and screaming at other drivers.


Another driver who is stuck in the same traffic jam reminds himself, "There are millions of cars on the road every day. Traffic jams are bound to happen sometimes." His point of view helps him stay calm and he listens to a podcast while he waits for cars to start moving again.

Accepting reality is about recognizing what's within your control. When you can't control the situation, focus on controlling yourself.


Behave productively.


Accepting reality helps you manage your thoughts and regulate your emotions--which are key to productive behavior. The choices you make when you're faced with problems determine how quickly you'll find a solution.


Unproductive behavior, like complaining or throwing a pity party, will keep you stuck. Those behaviors will rob of mental strength. So it's important to ask yourself, "What's one thing I can do right now to help myself?" Whether productive behavior involves facing a fear, or doing something you really don't want to do, take action.


Control upsetting thoughts.


Your mind can be your best asset or your biggest enemy. If you believe your negative thoughts, your self-limiting beliefs will prevent you from reaching your greatest potential.

Thinking, "This will never work. I'm not good enough," or, "I can't stand one more minute of this," will derail you from your goals. It's important to recognize when your inner monologue becomes overly pessimistic. Remember that just because you think something, doesn't make it true.

Talk to yourself like you'd talk to a trusted friend. When your thoughts become catastrophic or unhelpful, respond with a more realistic statement that confirms your ability to handle your struggles.


You can even create an affirmation that you repeat during tough times. Doing so can help you quiet the negative chatter that threatens to drag you down.


(Taken from INC.com)

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