• Kimberly Ibarra

The Chess Game


When playing a game of chess, every decision that is made will ultimately have an impact on the rest of the game…. Much like the game of life.


In chess – and in life – much of the skill required for success lies in one’s ability to ADAPT.


I was thinking about this very topic today after Edward and I got off of a FaceTime call with my Mom. Before I found out about her dementia diagnosis, I would basically call her every other week and visit her a couple of times a year. After learning of her condition, however, my world was suddenly turned upside down and I had to make some major adjustments. Suddenly I had to find time in my schedule to manage their finances, deal with their doctors, prescriptions and medical appointments and I had to “find the time” to travel back and forth to North Carolina in order to oversee all of these changes.


Was any of this “my fault”? Of course not. Was there anything I could’ve done to prepare for this? Perhaps, but I doubt it. Much like playing the game of chess, you can think 5 moves ahead – but if your opponent makes a move you did not predict, you will have to change your entire strategy to ADAPT.


We can’t always avoid unexpected events in our lives, but we CAN control how we deal with them. When a crisis occurs, it challenges us and forces us to step outside of our comfort zone. We have to just remind ourselves that, if we are afraid of change or try to walk away from challenges, we miss an opportunity to learn and grow. Being able to manage change and ADAPT is key to living a life where you are not only surviving but THRIVING as well.


“Chess is rarely a game of ideal moves. Almost always, a player faces a series of difficult consequences whichever move he makes.” – David Shenk

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