• Kimberly Ibarra

The Meaning of Agape

During the Superbowl there was a commercial from New York Life that touched my soul to its core, and I became overwhelmed with emotion.

The spot begins with a soft female voice describing that there are 4 types of love originating in the ancient Greek language. As the music plays softly, the narrator explains the first three; Philia, Storge and Eros….. closing powerfully with Agape. When the commercial ended, I sat there with tears streaming down my face and, as my husband asked if I was okay, I realized that this commercial reminded me of what I am currently experiencing caring for my mother.

Agape is love as an action. It takes courage and strength. The bible refers to it as a pure, willful, sacrificial love that intentionally desires another’s highest good. Up until last November, I had not experienced this form of love, on this level …. and it has been overwhelming.

Since learning of my mom’s dementia diagnosis, I have taken on a whole new character. This "caretaker persona" was created automatically and organically due to my added responsibilities and financial obligations. Monthly road trips and doctors visits, multiple video calls a day, and dealing with her confusion and mood swings have been just a small part of the initial duties I have had to adjust to....and it's not always easy.

I have learned that this agape love isn’t born out of just emotions, familiarity or feelings, it is instead given from WILL and it is a CHOICE. It also requires commitment, sacrifice and faithfulness without expecting anything in return.

In my growth as a spiritual being having a human experience, this has been one of the most challenging yet rewarding phases. It has taught me to really SEE and FEEL that we are on this journey together and, when something happens to one of us, it trickles down and affects us all. Despite the sadness of watching my mom's mind decline, I am grateful to have been trusted with this new opportunity on my journey and look forward to the challenge of keeping that smile on her face as long as I can!

We CAN continue to grow. We MUST continue to grow.

With love,


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